Honestly, these things shouldn't have been said to Lady He; it should have been discussed with Lady Zhou. But Lady Zhang Wang specifically brought in Lady He, yet the words were meant for Lady Zhou and everyone in the Lian Family to hear.
"When our family's eldest girl married into the Old Lian Family, she had a full set of dowry, clothes, fabric, those jewelry she wore on her head and hands. But when the time came to divide the family, what did she have left? Who used up all those things? Which family member had the nerve to dig into the bride's chests? Yet you have the face to call our family's eldest girl unfilial? If she were unfilial, would she have given you all those things?"
"If she were unfilial, could she neglect nursing her own child to nurse her sister-in-law's child? If she were unfilial, would the nurse of our child come to your house to serve during childbirth, not for her daughter, but for the mother-in-law?"
