"I know your brother-in-law is unreliable, but what can you do? You are a family now, and you have a child. You need to live well together with him. As long as you earn money yourself and have it in your hands, it's better than relying on anyone else.
The eldest brother doesn't have many days left, and he can't support you anymore. The remaining days are yours to live. Remember, relying on others is unreliable. The most dependable person in this world is yourself. If you have a skill and earn money, you'll have confidence, and you won't worry about others having opinions on your spending.
Your eldest brother used to protect you and spoil you, but he's gone now. No one else in this world will protect and spoil you like that.
