In front of the pains and hardships of life one would have a couple of choices to make.
The first and easiest would be to refuse the pain and blame your fate, fuck my life, why did my parents even decide to have me? Why am i like this. Cursing one thousand and one things that made your life what it's now.
The second choice would be to turn a blind eye, and removing your eyes and soul, turning the world into a pitch black hole devoid or emotion, because if you don't feel anything pain won't matter right? You see these in many soldiers who have actually undergone combat as they isolate themselves and end up devorcing their wives.
The third and last choice is the hardest to make, and require a large amount of mental effort and many might break or kill themsleves before getting here. Instead of hating the world, or yourself or even closing yourself in a shell that no one can break you would reach the stage of acceptance tasting the sweet and sour and knowing that the sourness of life is but a temporary thing. Here one would value their journey and not just the goal.