Just like when Jared had come to visit, Wilder hadn't been given the address to the pack house, and was picked out from a designated spot some distance away, to be taken to the pack house in a van with the back windows all covered up, so that he wouldn't be able to see where they were going. After all, while he might have been Felix's father, he was still an outsider. And Felix and Kade weren't even mated. For security reasons, they had to uphold the usual procedures.
That's where the similarities between Jared and Wilder's arrivals ended, though. As for differences…
